Giving Good "NO"* * * This workshop enables you to be more powerful, free and effective in all your communication. You will gain the ability to:
"Giving Good No": where the receiver not only hears and honors your "No", but in the process feels loved and in connection with you -- enabling the relationship to be not just preserved, but enhanced. Knowing you have this ability will enable you to feel powerful, alive and at ease in your body anytime you wish to have your truth be heard and honored.
In this experiential workshop, we'll learn how to say "No" in a way that is clear, firm, and empowering -- as well as open, loving, and affirming. Being able to say "No" with power & skill also allows you to say "Yes" to more opportunities. A dependable "No" gives you the confidence to handle, stop, or redirect any situation that comes up in the moment -- even if you've already said "Yes". Saying "No" with clarity will allow people to trust your "Yes" more deeply. They can rest in the knowledge that you are taking care of yourself and will tell them if something is bothering you. With a Good "No" you get to experience more joy & ease -- and spend less time being anxious and guarded. You can revel in the experience of deeply enjoying and receiving the things that you are a "Yes" to -- and lovingly yet clearly declining that which you don't want. * * * In this workshop, we go through three experiential levels: First, we practice getting in touch with whether we are a "Yes" or a "No" in a given situation. We learn how to stay connected with our bodies and find out what our truth is even in the face of someone else having a clear vision of how things should be. We also learn how to track as we change from a "Yes" to a "No" (and vice versa) as the situation changes. Just because we were a "Yes" a few minutes ago, we may now be a "No." It's important to be able to stay connected to our bodies as that changes from moment to moment. Once we can do that, we can relax more fully into everything that is a "Yes" for us, even if we know that farther down the line, the situation may call for a "No." Second, we focus on learning how to say a powerful "No" in the face of another person's demanding "Yes". We will develop your ability to really feel in your body your right and ability to stand up and stick to your "No" in the face of another person's strong-willed "Yes". At this level you learn how to be able to say "No" with not just your words, but your voice intonation, your emotional expression, your gestures, and your whole body so that all of you is in alignment and your "No" is heard, received, and respected. Third, we learn how to stay open and loving and connected to the other person while giving an unambiguous "No." Often, people respond more to the love and openness, or to the fear and closure, they sense in another person, than to the content of what that person is communicating. We might think that someone really wants our "Yes," when what they more deeply desire is to stay in connection with us. The love and openness in your "No" can feed and nourish your connections with others more than a tight, closed, or inauthentic "Yes." This experiential workshop will be taught using WholeBody Learning. In addition to learning concepts in your mental body -- you'll also experience them in your physical, emotional, intuitive & spiritual bodies -- your "WholeBody." Thus, you'll be better able to fully embody your new-found power & freedom. PriceAt the Door Price: TBA (remainder due 2-weeks before the start of the workshop) Work ExchangeA limited number of Work Exchange opportunities are available. To find out more, send an email to: Please include your phone #, a little about yourself, and what workshop/event you're interested in. Click here for Logistics, What to Bring, Payment Details and Cancellation Policy For more information on this or other workshops, or to be notified of future events visit our website at: Or send an email to: Or call Scott at: 510-356-5727
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WHEN To Be Announced For more information, or to receive a notice about upcoming events (and advance registration discounts) send an email to: Testimonials"I left feeling high, uplifted and motivated to change and grow. Hearing you talk was powerful and revealing. It was a delight to see such a strong role model. Watching us all get busted on
our acts and seeing and feeling layers of our acts dissolve was a treat." "Fun! Growthful! Great opportunity to simulate your hardest circumstance in which to say No. "It was exactly what I'm working on in my life right now so it related to everything. It related to my primary relationship, to my relationship with myself and resultantly to my physical and emotional health. "I learned so much about myself in
the exercises. I loved how much we laughed. I loved how open and
supportive all the participants were." "'Giving good No' is, in a nutshell, about being true to yourself. The workshop helped me reach in and explore, 'What do I really want in this moment? What do I need? How do I feel? Or am I trying to take care of others, for fear of rejection/abandonment or hurting others' feelings?' "I discovered that I've been so used to accommodating others, I often have no idea what I want. It feels strange to honor what I want, selfish in a way, and I always thought no was unkind somehow, but if I'm trying to figure out what others want, then I'm really just manipulating and controlling to get their approval. So what's selfish or unkind? The truth? I don't think so. Furthermore, while saying no was scary, even to strangers, I learned that I not only hurt myself by not honoring my no, but I hurt others. 'Only do it if it feels like a child feeding bread to a duck,' Scott would say. People can detect, consciously or not, when I really don’t want to do something, so I'm not doing anyone a favor by saying yes when I mean no. During the course of the workshop, I felt at times like I wanted a break, but I really just wanted to escape. Thank God the sessions lasted as long as they did, and for three days, because instead of breaks, I had BREAKTHROUGHS — which I desperately needed! Things I experienced and will bring into my life:
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threat.' "In whole body = in truth = in power = MAGIC!" "GGN is about: what do I REALLY want?" "Giving good no, in other words, 'no' is a gift, and it's good (for yourself and others.)" "Noticed yesterday how empowered I feel. My pussy is more connected and it feels like MINE. I'm not feeling needy or desperate." "I've been alone because I couldn't receive. Couldn't say yes or no. I've hurt people by being so pushy and masculine. I couldn't ask for help or for what I wanted. Now the gifts keep coming. There is so much abundance and beauty ... Just think, I don't have to work so hard, and I receive so much! Just being natural, feminine ... Thank you, Scott! Thank you, God! Now the world is soft and flowery and flowing, not so sharp and pointy!" "You are an amazingly centered and safe facilitator, tracking every being in the space with your whole body listening. Because of your deep listening, I get to hear anything out of tune in my being and bring it back into resonance with the space. I am a fan of short suffering and rapid transformation. I find the speed and sustainability of your work noteworthy. I appreciate your
generosity, patience, vitality and your courage to stand centered in the
face of the feminine storm in both men and women. You have my support." "Scott you are amazing at opening
people. You are so intuitive and have such a beautiful combination of hard
softness. You read people so well - and know just how to move peoples
bodies, hearts and souls to open them more. You hold the space for the
group very powerfully. The way you share your different sides so openly
opens the room. I like how you speak and dance your mixture of body,
mind, soul, and spirit." Upcoming Events:We're taking the Summer to re-vision the design of the workshops we'll be offering the public. To receive a notice about upcoming events (and advance registration discounts) send an email to: Navigation:
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